I’m looking for baggage that goes with miiiiiiiiiiiine!! Lol sorry had to :)
Feel this hard. Love your writing. Also Too Much and recently mentally dancing with the Tom Robbins quote, “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love”.
I want a best friend who cares about my intimate pleasure and I promise to do the same and we have to be good at conflict resolution bc there will be conflict and it is not about not having conflict it is about how you navigate the conflict yay real life it’s so not romantic it’s so not a musical it’s hospitals and moving apartments and moments of chaos and mistrust and then suddenly magnificent adventure again and wonderful laughs and jokes only you know and togetherness but between that the most awful family gatherings and sickness and death but you promise to do it together and in this capitalist hellscape it’s actually safer to pool resources and hopefully it doesn’t all fall down but then of course someone dies in the end even if it all works out so yeah tldr I love you and i love your writing xoxo
Etta I love everything about this comment, including the extremely apropos “Rent” reference.
I also love the lack of punctuation (for real) because I read this all in one breath and that was fun. Thanks for reading and engaging <3 You have a cool brain.
This is beautifully written and you’re so right- it’s better to be alone than to spend your life with a partner you have to perform for. Your earnestness and softness is disarming and cool. Keep connecting and questioning and letting yourself spill over- because what the hell is this all for if not for that?
Thank you Elise :))))))). Cynicism is on the rise, I fear. Trying to combat that with earnestness makes me look like a total fucking nerd but what can ya do.
This one hits a little close to home for me. I'm fairly new to dating (started dating about 8 months ago and I'm currently having my second unlabeled relationship at 23- side note, why do men love this whole unlabeled thing so much??) and I keep finding myself thinking about my complete inability to be casual and how much anxiety I feel when I feel like I'm being kept at arm's length. The guy I'm currently seeing lives about 3 hours away and I haven't seen him in 3 weeks, which sent me down a major anxiety "I'm just not good enough/he doesn't want me that badly" spiral yesterday. Being "casual" and indifferent sucks! But a mindset I adopted after my first relationship ended is "I'm not too much, they just weren't enough to hold all of me" which kind of helps?
Wishing you all the best as you continue to date and make new connections! It's rough out here!
Sarahhhhhhh I feel you deeply. Casual is so idealistic, and makes so much more sense in theory than in practice. I guess I’m glad I tried it? To see that I’m not quite cut out for it? But then like, how do I date people? That I dont? Want? To Marry? Anyway, very confusing.
April,
Another piece of writing that I loved.
Reading what you write makes me want to be creative again—and maybe even brave enough to share what I write, though I’m still not sure I ever will.
Thank you <3
No one is hot and mysterious and anyone who comes off that way is a poser
but fr loved this one. ur so cool
She just like me fr
yearners <3
Feel all of this. Thank you for sharing ❤️
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I’m looking for baggage that goes with miiiiiiiiiiiine!! Lol sorry had to :)
Feel this hard. Love your writing. Also Too Much and recently mentally dancing with the Tom Robbins quote, “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love”.
I want a best friend who cares about my intimate pleasure and I promise to do the same and we have to be good at conflict resolution bc there will be conflict and it is not about not having conflict it is about how you navigate the conflict yay real life it’s so not romantic it’s so not a musical it’s hospitals and moving apartments and moments of chaos and mistrust and then suddenly magnificent adventure again and wonderful laughs and jokes only you know and togetherness but between that the most awful family gatherings and sickness and death but you promise to do it together and in this capitalist hellscape it’s actually safer to pool resources and hopefully it doesn’t all fall down but then of course someone dies in the end even if it all works out so yeah tldr I love you and i love your writing xoxo
Etta I love everything about this comment, including the extremely apropos “Rent” reference.
I also love the lack of punctuation (for real) because I read this all in one breath and that was fun. Thanks for reading and engaging <3 You have a cool brain.
This is beautifully written and you’re so right- it’s better to be alone than to spend your life with a partner you have to perform for. Your earnestness and softness is disarming and cool. Keep connecting and questioning and letting yourself spill over- because what the hell is this all for if not for that?
Thank you Elise :))))))). Cynicism is on the rise, I fear. Trying to combat that with earnestness makes me look like a total fucking nerd but what can ya do.
This one hits a little close to home for me. I'm fairly new to dating (started dating about 8 months ago and I'm currently having my second unlabeled relationship at 23- side note, why do men love this whole unlabeled thing so much??) and I keep finding myself thinking about my complete inability to be casual and how much anxiety I feel when I feel like I'm being kept at arm's length. The guy I'm currently seeing lives about 3 hours away and I haven't seen him in 3 weeks, which sent me down a major anxiety "I'm just not good enough/he doesn't want me that badly" spiral yesterday. Being "casual" and indifferent sucks! But a mindset I adopted after my first relationship ended is "I'm not too much, they just weren't enough to hold all of me" which kind of helps?
Wishing you all the best as you continue to date and make new connections! It's rough out here!
Sarahhhhhhh I feel you deeply. Casual is so idealistic, and makes so much more sense in theory than in practice. I guess I’m glad I tried it? To see that I’m not quite cut out for it? But then like, how do I date people? That I dont? Want? To Marry? Anyway, very confusing.